At first glance I thought conscious uncoupling was a railroad term where by rail workers had a plan to uncouple train cars.
But no, that bit of psychobabble is a nice sounding couple of terms for getting a divorce. This I discovered from reading a blog article written by Jessica Grose in Slate Magazine.
Conscious uncoupling are the terms Gwyneth Paltrow used to describe her split from husband Chris Martin.
Paltrow and Martin made their announcement of a conscious uncoupling and released an essay by two psychobabbler’s to explain what the unusual terms meant. Here’s a summary from Ms. Grose’s blog:
The gist of the essay—by Habib Sadeghi and Sherry Sami, doctors who integrate Eastern and Western medicine—is that the institution of marriage hasn’t evolved along with our longer life spans. Divorce doesn’t mean your relationship wasn’t successful, they say. It just means that this particular relationship has come to its conclusion; you may have two or three of these successful relationships in a lifetime. Instead of a typical, rancorous, regular-person separation, you just need to have a “conscious uncoupling.” You need to be spiritually “present” and recognize that partners in intimate relationships are our “teachers.” You need to “cultivate” your “feminine energy” to salve any wounds.
Frankly, I don’t know where to start with that baloney. So, to help me out a little I googled Dr. Habib Sadeghi and found his “be hive of healing” website.
The good doctor (and his cohort Dr. Sherry Sami) appear to be big deals in the health industry and appear to represent some sort of cutting edge combination of western and eastern healing practices. The eastern part seems to be the spiritual part. For those of you who don’t know what that means think “new agey spirituality.”
Dr. Sadeghi seems to be a rather popular fellow and his website boasts that he has achieved “miraculous” results with his methods. He has been employed at more than one well-known university. I can see why Paltrow and Martin engaged in this sort of name-dropping. It certainly gives the appearance of “following doctor’s orders” or perhaps that should be “following the high priest’s orders?”
Ms. Paltrow is an idol to many. The fact this story is a big deal in the news cycle is proof that many people really do seem care what goes on in the personal relationships of the Hollywood elite. The fact that Paltrow and Martin are fans of new agey gurus is an idolatry of another sort. The fact their spiritual advisers (advertised freely) are welcomed on campus is interesting given that on most campuses traditional Christianity is not.
Perosnally, I could care less what the Hollywood elite does or who they follow spiritually. I would not expect non-Christians to make Christian decisions. What does bug me though is the number of people who look up to Ms. Paltrow as some source of cutting edge truth and in turn would look up to her gurus who use nice language to disguise the tragedy of divorce and a further undermining of marriage.
There is nothing new under-the-sun, just a repackaging of old ideas that are given medical sounding labels. The apostle Paul warned the Colossian Christians of finding value in any such system:
See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ. (Colossians 2:8 ESV)
I’m really not all the familiar with Slate Magazine nor the author of the blog, Jessica Grose. But I do agree with Ms. Grose’s comment that as an aspirational idol women can do better than Gwyneth Paltrow. Yes indeed.